05 Mar Couples Are Taking Reddit’s “30-Day Sex Challenge” — Here’s What That Means
It’s normal for long-term partners to go through periods when they’re having less frequent sex: Desire is cyclical, and that’s nothing to be alarmed about. At the same time, getting creative about reigniting your sex life with your partner can be a hell of a lot of fun, and now couples are crediting a “30-day sex challenge” for doing just that after the challenge went viral on Reddit. Originally posted by an anonymous couple, the experiment is now being undertaken by people around the world, such as a married British couple who kept a diary of their experience with the challenge.
The rules are as follows: You and your partner are supposed to try one new sexy dare every day for a month. If you miss a day, you just add on a day, extending the challenge, but you can’t extend the challenge past 40 days. (Of course, use birth control and protection as needed and desired.) Special allowances can be made for work, holiday travel, or menstrual periods (although here at Ladyluxe, we see nothing wrong with period sex if you’re comfortable with it). Each partner gets two veto days, on which you can skip the day’s activity and just have sex however you like. Lastly, you can add your own sexy tasks to the list should you have additional ideas.
Of course, a 30-day sex challenge only works if all parties are interested and turned on by the idea: Sex within a relationship should never feel like an obligation, and if you feel pressured by this kind of structure, this experience may not be for you. However, sometimes planning ahead for sex ensures we make time for something we really want to do but that can fall by the wayside next to other obligations. If this challenge interests you and your partner, then game on (and don’t hesitate to make up your own rules).
As for what’s on the list, check it out below.
Our 30 Day Sex Challenge – aka “Our Reddit Sex Challenge”
- Each partner can modify/replace the activity for two of the days of their choosing before the challenge starts. No edits after the challenge begins.
- Each partner gets two VETO days in which they can choose to just have sex and bypass a specific day’s activity.
- Partners can also add anything to the list if both partners agree.
- Periods, holidays, business travel will be treated as “pause” if necessary.
- If a day is missed, an extra day will be added to the challenge increasing the challenge length from 30, 31, 32, and so on. The challenge will not exceed 40 days.
- The goal is to push your comfort zone and try something new. If a partner is uncomfortable with a challenge and they no longer have an edit or VETO, they can borrow a partners VETO. In this case, the partner who gives up a VETO gets to pick the new activity.
- Condoms and birth control should be used when desired or required.
Day 1—Have sex at a time other than before bed. Lunch time romp, morning sex, or after work workout.
Day 2— Browse a list, book of sex positions, or watch a Kama Sutra video together. Pick a few new positions to try. Be sure to tell your partner what you think looks enjoyable and why. Stick to the easy stuff. No point getting an injury on day 2.
Day 3—Have sex twice in a day.
Day 4—Read erotica together before sex. Find good erotica online and each pick a short story.
Day 5—Shower sex. Be extra soapy but use caution. Water based lube (not shower water or soap) is advised.
Day 6— Full body massage before initiating sex.
Day 7— Quickie. 10 minutes or less. Try someplace/time fun. Example: while preparing breakfast standing in the kitchen. Bonus Play: Two or more in a day.
Day 8—Road trip. Park, make out and have car sex. Option: go home for sex afterwards. Don’t break the law. Maybe just do it in the car in the garage.
Day 9—Sex while seated on chair or sofa, facing each other and facing away.
Day 10—Sensual oil massage before sex. Towels or old sheets recommended
Day 11— Oral Sex only. Tell your partner what works and keep at it until you both orgasm. No 69.
Day 12—Let her dominate. Tell your partner what you want. Bonus Play: Ropes or handcuffs
Day 13—She brings him to orgasm, no intercourse, hands, mouth, and body only. Bonus Play: Use breast or feet to bring partner to orgasm.
Day 14—Find a new place in the house for sex. Kitchen, bath, living room, chair, sofa, floor, etc.
Day 15—Each partner brings self to an orgasm seated in front of partner on bed. Same time is ideal. Share what you are feeling. Use what you like. Observe and learn.
Day 16—Advanced level Kama Sutra. Find two or three challenging positions to try. Again, avoid injury.
Day 17— Add toys into your love making. Vibrators, dildos, cock rings, beads and ticklers. This session is all about finding what works.
Day 18— Watch porn together. Movie or 30 minutes minimum. Bonus Play: Masturbate (self or partner) or have sex while watching. Start with something safe if you have never watched before. Find a good “Couples Porn” video or visit sites like X-Art.
Day 19—Sex without intercourse. Hands, body, toys, mouths. Both must orgasm.
Day 20–Share fantasies today by email. (warning, do not use work email) Pick one to play out. Bonus Play: costumes.
Day 21—Visit a sex store together (either in store or online). You both must make a purchase. Sex toys, sex games, videos, or books.
Day 22— He brings her to orgasm, no intercourse. Hands, mouth, toys only
Day 23—Take a breather… enjoy a night of just sex
Day 24—Sex game… dice, spinner, or app. Find something fun to play.
Day 25— Slow it down sex. Fuck at ¼ speed. This is a marathon, slow and steady. 45 Minutes+ or until you both have had one or more orgasms.
Day 26—Let him dominate. He’s in charge, do what he says. Bonus Play: Ropes or handcuffs
Day 27—Dinner out with under the table touching. Nothing illegal! Then go home or hotel for sex.
Day 28—Multiple Orgasm Day. Have a few minutes cool down with caressing after an orgasm then try to start it back up again, or just keep going!! Today, one is never enough!
Day 29—Flip a coin, Pick a dominant. Tell your partner “Do what you want to me”, but be sure to have a safe word. Try and push the limits of yours and your partner’s comfort level.
Day 30—Stay up all night—or as long as you can, having sex. Have as much sex as possible today. Explore 27 days of favorites today and try to have either 5 orgasms or sex 5 times.
Bonus Day 31—Caress, take it easy then just fuck.